Wednesday, December 21, 2016

Christmas "letter" 2016!

Herein lies the Christmas card-turned-letter-turned-email that I am sharing with our family and friends this year:

Merry Christmas, friends!!

I’ve had “order Christmas cards” on my list for a few weeks now... and since that didn’t get done, it turned into “write Christmas letter” ... and now with Christmas a few days away, it’s looking a little more like “Here’s your Happy Holiday Email!” We have so many dear friends and family spread out over so many states that I really do want to keep in touch; we’re just frankly pretty bad at it. :) But that doesn’t mean we do not love or miss you any less!
2016 has been a good year for our family over all. Here are a few highlights:


Ben – still loves working bi-vocationally. Monday-Thursday he drives to Charlotte to work at Carroll Financial with our good friend (and “South Carolina Dad”), Mike Jette. Mike is a financial planner, and Ben is on his team. Ben has passed his Series 7 and 66 tests (if anyone knows what that means!) and is on his second course (out of seven) in order to be a CFP (Certified Financial Planner.) So he works with numbers and spreadsheets by day, writes sermons and administrates church “business” by night/weekend, and studies thick books about math on the side... if you know Ben, you know this is right up his alley. He’s still the “fun parent” who plays and wrestles, and he’s got big fans in three little people at home!

 
Taking Abby on a birthday date last January

Bedtime snuggles with Dad


Janelle – Spring 2015 through spring of 2016 was probably the busiest I’ve ever been in my life, mostly because of the adoption paperwork and fundraisers that I added onto my pile. (More about the adoption in a bit.) Once our dossier was submitted early this past year, and our HUGE Both Hands fundraiser finished in March, and our homeschool co-op/schoolwork was done early April, I suddenly was like, “What in the world do I do with my life now??” It felt like I should still be running 100 mph, and my body let me know it! I spent over a month feeling sick as all the stress decided to work its way out. So two things I learned and have finally put into practice the remainder of the year: 1) I need time away from my kids, and I shouldn’t feel guilty about that! and 2) My body needs to exercise! We reworked our schedule, and I have thoroughly enjoyed going to the Y all by myself a few days a week. It keeps me happy, and we all know that a happy mama makes for a happier household. :) Besides all that, I still truly love homeschooling our kids (and I still like my kids too... most of the time!) ;) Our Classical Conversations co-op is a huge blessing to me, and I just love learning along with my children. Homeschooling is one of those topics I could talk about forever.... so I’ll stop now.

 
Seeing "The Nutcracker" with Abby

Micah – is in the 4th grade. He turned 10 this October and thinks he is going on 30. :) He is a true “oldest child.” He remains the most social of my children and wants to be with people all the time, never missing out on anything fun. In many ways, he is just a smaller version of his father... He makes charts and spreadsheets and keeps statistics of his basketball shots. He thinks up business plans, and figures out how much money he needs to save now to retire early. (I kid you not.) He asked me to buy him a book on Algebra so he can “look ahead.” (He’s already working a year ahead in math, and that’s the one subject I never have to teach him – he looks over the lesson and just gets it.) I’ve often found he and Ben laying in his bed before bedtime discussing such interesting topics as stocks and bonds. This year, he also started the writing and grammar-intensive portion of his homeschool that I have been dreading because I thought his math-wired-brain would hate it... but he has actually risen to the occasion and likes it! He’s writing papers and parsing sentences like a champ, and I’m so pleased with his work ethic. He still loves Star Wars and all things sports-related. Much to Ben’s chagrin, he has become a Steelers fan. (That’s his Maryland cousins rubbing off on him... he’s come to the dark side!) He’ll be playing basketball at the Y again this winter, and his hero is Stephen Curry. Micah has a big heart to do what is right and is a champion of justice, and I know the Lord will use those qualities to do a lot of good in this world.

Looking like a sharp-dressed man for a wedding

Caleb – is in 1st grade and turned 7 in September. How does one describe Caleb exactly? He marches to the beat of his own drum for sure. He has typical 7-year-old-boy humor, so anything is funny if it has the word “fart” in it. He has an irrational fear of balloons for some unknown reason. He spends most of his spare time coming up with elaborate Lego creations or drawing out ideas to build in Minecraft. He loves to be around people too, but usually retreats at some point to get his alone time. He is also a full fan of Star Wars and quotes movie lines on a regular basis. He is usually the first of all our kids to offer to pray for someone. He talks a lot about our Haiti kids, and wonders out loud if they are hungry or feel sad. When he prays for them, he usually asks God to give them a hug since we aren’t there to do it. His sensitive heart has struggled with not having a “best friend” since moving to South Carolina, but we’re doing a better job about getting him around some boys his own age (not just Micah’s friends), and he’s loving that. He’s pretty sure he wants to be an astronaut when he grows up.

Sharp-dressed man number 2

Abby – will be five in just a few weeks! I don’t know if it’s because she’s our only girl or because she’s the baby of the family, but she still seems pretty adorable to all of us, and she’s the princess of the family for sure. With the exception of her Dad and grandpas, she would prefer that the entire grown male population be wiped off the planet (or at least not acknowledge her existence.) Ben hopes it stays that way. She has an amazing imagination and everything she plays with (dolls, pipe cleaners, a piece of trash from the ground) takes on a personality complete with dramatic voices. She loves to color, snuggle (best snuggler in the family by far!), and play with the neighborhood cat, Mojo (“Jo Jo” as she calls him.) Although she’s not officially in kindergarten yet, this is her first year joining in a classroom at Classical Conversations and she LOVES the songs and memory work. Most days, she and Caleb alternate between being best buddies, worst enemies, and partners in crime.


Adoption news – As most of you know, we began the process last year of adopting children from Haiti. We have requested two children ages five and under, and although we could end up with just one, chances are we will get two since we are willing to accept two. (Yes, they will be siblings since in Haiti you can only adopt more than one child at a time if they are biological siblings. No, we do not know who they are yet. Under the Hague convention, you can no longer request a particular child – or at least it’s 1000 times more difficult!) It took nearly a year to complete our home study and dossier information. I tell you what, the adoption process is NO JOKE! It’s a good thing we are requesting two kids at once because I don’t think I could talk myself into going through all this work again for a second go round. Our dossier was submitted to Haiti in March of this year, and we just did our one-year updates of our home study and immigration approval. Unfortunately, we will probably have to do the updates AT LEAST two more times since our expected timeline for a referral (according to the current rate of forward motion) is March 2018. But that’s okay; in the event that we DO get a five year old, I would prefer Abby to be closer to 7 before we bring our Haitian kids home.
For us, adoption also comes with a lot of fundraising and grant-applying. We’re willing to put everything we have into it, but the cost of adopting two kids from Haiti is almost definitely going to be over $50,000. If I wasn’t 100% sure this is specifically what the Lord has asked our family to do, I would have said “No way!” a long time ago just because of the price tag. But He always pays His bills. :) We’ve received grants from both Lifesong for Orphans and Show Hope, and we’ve had a couple of great fundraisers this year (a HUGE garage sale with lots of help from friends, an on-going coffee fundraiser through Gobena coffee, and our Both Hands fundraiser.) I could write paragraph upon paragraph about our Both Hands fundraiser alone in which we had about 50 people working together to fix up a widow’s house here in Rock Hill. It was simply amazing and God-ordained, and I cried lots of tears of joy as I saw so many people being the hands and feet of Jesus to not only us, but also to Ms. Nat, the widow we helped. To date, we have raised over $20,000 through this fundraiser. It was a doozy to organize and pull off, but so, so worth it!

Some of the dear friends who helped at our Both Hands project


Vineyard Church of Rock Hill - It’s hard to believe that it’s been over three years since we moved to Rock Hill, SC, to plant a church... and our church has been holding Sunday morning services for almost two years. I was flipping through an old journal the other day, and found the first entry where I prayed specifically about Rock Hill as we began to discern that this might be the town where the Lord was calling us. The passage I had read that day was Joshua 24:11, “So I gave you a land on which you did not toil and cities you did not build; and you live in them and eat from vineyards and olive groves that you did not plant...” and it struck me how much that verse has applied to us in these first couple years of church planting. We truly have experienced a “Vineyard” being planted that we ourselves have not had to toil and work for. It feels like the Lord simply had people ready and waiting for us with a similar vision and heart, and we haven’t had to run ourselves into the ground trying to get started. We are past the “honeymoon” stage of having a new church, but despite all the “horror stories” we’ve heard, our team is still together (AND we still like each other! At least as far as I know) :) and no one wants to throw in the towel. We were able to tell our outside financial supporters that they could stop giving a few months early because we became self-sustaining earlier than we anticipated. The past two years have really been an experiment in many ways... is it possible to have a church that has practically no programs and no “machine” to run? Could people be inspired to seek out community with each other even if there aren’t pre-manufactured “community groups”? Can we encourage others to take ownership of their own discipleship rather than depending on church staff or church-run programs to feed them? Can we have a church simple enough and Spirit-led enough that folks don’t burn out from doing too much and we don’t need full-time staff or a building and everyone truly does “get to play” and we can give away most of our money to things close to the Father’s heart? Well, the experiment still continues, and we are far from having all the answers to those questions, but we have found a lot of joy in the process. We feel like we are exactly where God wants us to be at the moment, and we want to stay sensitive to whatever He wants us to do.

Surprise, surprise, this email has turned out much longer than I originally intended! Overall, I just wanted to say Merry Christmas to each of you and to let you know that we love and miss those of you who live far away from us! I pray your holiday season is blessed with the presence of Jesus and that your new year is a fresh new start in all good ways.

Love,

Janelle for all the Gansons (Ben, Micah, Caleb, and Abby)

A few links:
About our Both Hands project: https://bothhands.org/project/ganson-236
Vineyard Church of Rock Hill: http://rockhillvineyard.org/
Our “official blog” I never update anymore but probably will someday: http://gansonfive.blogspot.com/
The blog I OCCASIONALLY update but is purely a scrapbook for our family and has nothing of substance except pictures of the kids and a list of what we’ve been doing as a family: http://gansonfamilyscrapbook.blogspot.com/



Thursday, April 7, 2016

Adoption FAQs

As our Both Hands project comes to a close, I'm getting lots of questions about our adoption, so I thought I would post a few FAQs here for easy reference.   As of today, we have raised just over $16,000 through Both Hands!    It's not too late to give... just visit https://bothhands.org/project/ganson-236 

But first, here is a short 5-minute video about our Both Hands project.  Be sure to watch all the way to the end to see Ms. Nat, who is so sweet:

FAQs:
Q:How much money do the Gansons need to raise?
A:The total cost for them to adopt two children from Haiti will be between $45,000-57,000.  They have received some grants and have paid a good bit themselves already, so they really only need another $20-29,000 to finish paying for all the adoption costs.  (That means that, from this point, another $4,000-$13,000 raised through Both Hands would give them everything they need!)

Q: What happens if the Gansons end up getting more money than the amount they need?  (i.e. If their Both Hands project raises  $27,000, but their adoption costs end up only totaling $25,000?)
A:A couple things could happen.  First, the Gansons could actually be reimbursed from Both Hands for some of the adoption costs they have already paid themselves personally (approx. $14,000). This would obviously be a huge help for them to get some savings back as they prepare to add 2 more kids to their family...or they could use it on certain things that aren't officially considered "adoption expenses" (i.e. vaccinations recommended for overseas travel, certain in-country expenses when they travel to Haiti, etc.)  If by some miracle the Gansons raise enough money to pay all their adoption costs AND be reimbursed for previous adoption expenses, the remaining money would be given to other adopting families who are doing Both Hands projects.

Q: Does all of my donation go to the adoption expenses?
A:YES!  Both Hands raises money for it's operating expenses separately so that 100% of the money that comes in via this fundraiser can go toward the cost of the family's adoption.  The one exception is if you pay online with a credit card or paypal, a percentage of that will be deducted to pay the credit card/paypal fees that they charge Both Hands.  Both Hands doesn't use this money; it's only for the fees the credit card charges.

Q:How did you pay for all the materials on the work day?
A:Everything was donated or underwritten by local businesses.  Most of the work we did was labor-intensive, although approximately $2,000 worth of supplies were donated!  (Donating businesses are listed at the end of the video.)

Q:Is my gift tax-deductible?
A: Yes!  Both Hands is a 501c3 organization and all gifts are tax deductible.

Q:What if I want to give, but can't now?
A:The Ganson's Both Hands account will stay open until their children are home and the adoption is finalized.  (This could take up to another 3 years unfortunately.)  So anyone can give any time until then!  (Just visit https://bothhands.org/project/ganson-236)

Q: Where are the Gansons at in the adoption process?  What does the timeframe look like?
A: They started the process last March (2015).  Their home study and all the paperwork US-side are done, and their dossier was sent to Haiti.  Their paperwork officially entered the central social services agency in Haiti on March 9, 2016, so now the long wait begins for them to receive their referral.  It is estimated to be another 1-2 years before they receive a referral, and a total of 2-3 years before their children come home. (This actually works well for them because they have requested 2 children ages 5 and under, so in 3 years, their youngest biological child will be 7, leaving a nice age gap between her and the oldest adopted child, if they get a 5-year-old.)  Janelle has a goal to update this blog sometime this summer with all the "God-things" that have happened since they said "yes" to this adoption: http://gansonfive.blogspot.com/, and this will be the place they write adoption updates as they progress.  

Q: Why is adoption so expensive, especially when kids are in desperate need of a home?
A:  To adopt one child from Haiti, it would cost approximately $30,000.  To adopt 2, it will cost between $45,000-57,000.  (The difference mostly depends on which orphange the children end up coming from and whether they double fees for sibling groups or not.)  There's no great answer to this question, except that it is a very long legal process that involves "checks and balances" at what feels like every government agency at local, state, and national levels - in two different countries!  In some ways, it helps to weed out those who aren't serious about taking on the challenge of raising a child from another culture, and it definitely helps to deter those who might have ill-intent.  The main goal is to protect children (who have already suffered trauma of one kind or another) from being placed in harmful situations.  Someone once said, "It feels like you're paying a ransom for the kids," and the thought hit me (Janelle), "That's exactly what we're doing.  We are paying a ransom for their lives, and I'm okay with that.  If it was one of my biological kids who was left orphaned in a third world country, I would move heaven and earth to pay whatever I needed to to get them home!" 

Q: Why is the process so long to adopt from Haiti?
A:  There are two answers to this: For one, they are a third-world country, and things just don't operate like they do in the US.  Their central social services office that oversees all adoptions in Haiti doesn't even have air-conditioning (and loses electricity several times a day), and there is no "online" way to match parents and children... it's all paper and pen.  Offices run out of ink for a month at a time, or things close down because of political unrest.  It can be a mess.Secondly, Haiti joined the Hague convention in 2014, which overall is a good thing that ensures adoptions are done well and with integrity (to cut down on child traffiking), but as they have tried to transition to the new system of doing things, it has bottle-necked many of the applications, making the wait time longer "than normal."  The Gansons are okay (at this point!) with the long wait, since they wanted their youngest biological child to be a little older when her siblings come home anyway.  


QWhat did you accomplish on your work day at Ms. Nat's house?
A:  Projects we completed:
  • Took out the back door which was rotting and not closing correctly and replaced it with a brand new door (door donated by Home Depot)
  • Replaced three windows and reframed them (windows reduced priced from Lowes; paid for by Ecclesia construction)
  • Fixed framing on other windows (supplies paid for by Ecclesia and Vineyard Church of Rock Hill)
  • Scraped and painted all trim and cement on the house (all paint donated by Home Depot, painting supplies paid for by Ecclesia)
  • Repainted the front porch and outdoor furniture (spray paint donated by Lowes)
  • Landscaped the yard and flower beds/planted flowers (flowers donated by Lowes, Wilson's Nursery, and Sheila Sanders)
  • Cleaned out the attic, shed, back porch, and other areas of the house and hauled off all the trash: 2,870 POUNDS worth!
  • Tore down and hauled off wooden structures outside
  • Added railings to steps on the back 
  • Replaced crawl space door
  • Repainted the front door and mailbox
  • Cleaned out and repainted kitchen cupboards, put down liner, washed and organized contents
  • Deep-cleaned most areas of the house (wash windows, flip mattresses, dusting behind furniture, etc.)
  • Organized office nook
  • Replaced all blinds
  • Sprayed perimeter of house for bugs and weeds (spray donated by Lowes, weeds were sprayed by a lawn-maintenance worker nearby who caught on to what we were doing and wanted to help too! :))
  • Basic HVAC maintenance

Q: What is Both Hands?
A: 
 The short answer is:  Both Hands is 501(c)3 non-profit organization “serving widows, orphans and adoptive families.” Both Hands helps families raise funds for their adoptions while serving a widow through home improvement projects. ( A hand for the widow, a hand for the orphan.)  Visit https://bothhands.org/about/our-story for the amazing story behind this incredible organization!